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This month’s questions:
- How do you balance work and life?
- Why do I let Sienna buy me skinny jeans?
- How do you choose investments?
- What do you think about $15 minimum wage?
- Should government mandate pronoun usage referring to transgender people? Is it a fad or biological. Should there be a biological standard for male/female? Is gender a social construct or biological
- Will California secede from the union? Would I leave?
- Why do some people lean left politically? is it out of desire to protect the helpless or to protect their own circumstances?
- How do you deal with haters?
(Watch video or read transcript below)
How do I balance work and life?
To be quite honest, I don’t do it very well. I don’t think most people do it well. I have learned a lot by studying highly successful people through the years, through writing the books “Success” and “Motivation,” and through studying many successful people and from my own life experiences. I’ve concluded that people who are very successful in one area of life tend to have very poor work life balance.
Look at Michael Jordan for instance. He is very good at basketball, but not well balanced in other areas of his life. Hence, when you focus on thriving in one area, other areas are bound to suffer. What I have done to balance work life is to be very clear about the goal or the outcome that I want and then focus the right amount of energy towards that goal.
For example, at this stage in my life, my son is with me most of the time. Thus, some aspects of my career have been put aside to prioritize raising him. When he gets a little older and more independent, I will begin to focus less on him and to expand my career.
When writing the book “Success,” Ryron Gracie gave me a great line which I took to heart. He said, balance means giving each part the amount of time that it needs. If I understood his explanation, it means work may require a lot of time throughout the week, while your wife doesn’t quite need as much time, but she does need times. You must give her, your kids, and your hobbies the proportion of time they need. Balance doesn’t necessarily mean equal but rather proportional amount of time towards each endeavor.
Creating a balance means committing the appropriate amount of time to achieve the desired goal. I use this secret to attain a balanced life. It begins with clarity on the end goal and then committing sufficient time to reach that goal balancing proportionately with each different endeavor.
Why do I let Sienna buy me skinny jeans?
This question is from my buddy Sonny. He is always ragging on me because I admitted that Sienna and I drove four and a half hours to a wedding; and we threw a bag of clothes at the last minute. This wedding was out in the middle of nowhere at this cool cowboy‐like ranch.
We got there with about 20 minutes to spare, which I blame Sienna for because I’m always ready on time. LOL. When we got there, I was wearing my typical daily uniform—board shorts, flip‐flops and a t‐shirt. I literally had no pants. I found this store that had pants that were like a little too small for me, size 32, but they were going to work, and I had to go to the wedding.
Sonny saw a picture of me in the new pants and he has been relentlessly teasing me about my skinny jeans. To answer your question, Sonny, Sienna didn’t buy me the skinny jeans. I bought my own skinny jeans.
How do I choose an investment?
This is a hard question to answer briefly. Therefore, I’m going to be a little bit vague about my answer. I look for things like where do I need to diversify? Meaning I don’t want all my eggs in one basket so to speak. Therefore, I am careful about where I am going to invest so that I’m balancing out my portfolio.
Secondly, I look at the expenses—how much is the investment will cost me. I also recommend you download on my website, at ChuckRylant.com, an article called “The Single Best Investment. That article describes a completely different approach to choosing investments.
Finally, here is my real answer to the question. I think this came from Warren Buffett, if I remember right. I never invest in anything I do not completely understand. Many people are duped into fraudulent investments because they invest in things they do not understand. If you don’t understand the stock market, you either learn about it or don’t invest in it.
I don’t trust other people with my money. I need to understand it myself. Most people go into real estate investment because they have either rented or bought a house, so they have some little understanding of its operation. This is a safe investment if you understand it.
Other areas are more complex, like investing in a tech startup. You ought not to be quick to invest in this area until you get to understand it better. That is how I choose investments. I make sure I completely understand what I’m investing in.
What do I think about the $15 minimum wage?
If you ask me, the $15 is irrelevant. The better question is: “What do I think about minimum wage?” If you understand the basics of economics, there really should not be a minimum wage which is artificially inflating wages. Minimum wage law is a government getting involved with the market where the market should be the one that determines wages. When government interferes with wages and artificially controls the price of the market, it screws things up for everyone.
The people that support $15 minimum wages, do so out of the kindness of their heart. They want to help poor people. However, what they are doing is hurting poor people. I will qualify my assertion with a practical example.
If the potential earning of an employee is $10 per hour, the most he can possibly produce is $10 worth of labor. When you artificially inflate the wage to $15 an hour, several complicated outcomes occur. First, the employer is forced to get rid of that low‐earning employee. This is because no company can afford to pay somebody $15 that is producing $10 an outcome.
Anyone that disagrees with minimum wage believes in corporate welfare. Corporate Welfare means employers should be providing free handouts to somebody who has not earned it. Because many people misunderstand, they believe that corporations have this unlimited pot of money. The truth is money from corporations is money that comes from the consumer.
Since consumers buy things, they determine how much things are worth. The investors invest their money hoping to earn a return. Consequently, if the company is not profitable, it will go under or have to do things to make it profitable.
Corporations are not a welfare system. Hence, artificially raising the minimum wage will force people into unemployment, as companies will have to find alternative options such as robots. As you have noticed, in all these stores now, they don’t have checkers anymore. At the grocery store, the movies, at McDonald’s, they are starting to have computers replacing humans because the cost of labor is too high.
Therefore, minimum wage laws are supposed to help poor people, but they are in turn taking away their jobs. The entry‐level positions are being replaced by robots because the cost of labor is too high. When McDonald’s replaces an employee with a robot, it doesn’t affect high earners like me or whoever else is probably watching this. It doesn’t affect you because you don’t lose your job at McDonald’s, you make more money, but it affects the entry‐level employees.
Nowadays it is rare to see young people in these entry level positions. I started at McDonald’s when I was a kid at 16 years old. But you do not see kids working as much now because it is just too costly to pay a kid that much money. Instead they found alternative options. Therefore, it does not make sense to raise minimum wages.
When minimum wage increases, the cost of goods, that poor people buy, also goes up. For example, let’s say a gallon of milk costs $3 a gallon. The people who earn minimum wage, that help produce that gallon of milk, get paid more, so that the only option is to lay people off and/or raise the price of the milk. The $3 a gallon of milk goes to $3.25 or $3.50. Everything goes up to offset all of the costs of the higher wages.
Minimum wage laws do not make sense at all. The government should allow the market to control the wages and the people who can’t earn decent living need to raise the value that the contribute to the market. They need to get more education and experience. They need to make themselves worth more rather than expecting others sink down to their level.
Should government mandate pronoun usage for transgender people? Is it a fad or biological? Should there be a biological standard for male/female?
No, government should ever be involved in regulating free speech. They should never dictate how people should speak because this right is clearly expressed in the US constitution. Individuals, not government, should choose how they’re going to address people of transgender. Anyone should be free to do whatever they want to do as long as it doesn’t harm other people.
Is it a fad or biological? I think a little bit of both. As things become more trendy, young people who are trying to find who they are in life, and where they fit in, will probably tend to want to rebel against their parents. Hence, there are a lot of experimental same‐sex relationships in the schools because of rebellion.
But for the most part, I truly believe the few people who I have met that are transgender, they truly feel or believe that they are the opposite sex. The reason I think that is that there is awful lot of social stigma even today for making that transgender change. Subsequently, it is quite difficult for somebody who feels like he or she belongs to the opposite sex.
I don’t think most people would take that very lightly. Someone who is really changing who they are is different than versus somebody who wants to wear makeup or dress up because they’re a teenager and are acting out of rebellion. The answer to your question, I think it’s more biological than anything.
Should there be a biological standard for male or female? Here is the deeper question: how does the rest of society deal with this? In my opinion, individuals should be allowed to do what they want if they don’t hurt people. Be as it may, there is an unequivocal standard in science of what the difference between a male and a female. For the most part, if you have a penis or vagina that determines whether you are a male or female, that is just the way it is. I understand this is a little more complicated with chromosomes, but for the most part, when we look at somebody’s genitals, we know what they are, and that should be the standard.
There is a standard because there are inherent differences between men and women. Sometimes these differences are blurred between masculinity and femininity. You can have a male who is very feminine, and you can have a female who is very masculine, but that does not change what sex they are.
Just because a male wears eye liner and grows her hair long, doesn’t change his sex. Along with sex come other things in the body: level of strength and testosterone. These are indisputable facts and so the issue now is how to do what you want without harming other people. This comes into play when men are claiming to be women and then doing things like competition with the opposite sex. Now that is clearly unfair and I think 99.9% of society feels that way, even if not everyone will admit it because it’s politically incorrect.
Today, you should not have a male mixed martial arts fighter fighting with females. It is unacceptable because there is a potential to bring harm to other people. Now imagine a male cyclist who wins a gold medal against female cyclists. This is harm in a different kind of way, and I think it can be avoided when competition is based on the sex that we are born with.
Most females look a certain way. There are anomalies of course, but they are the fringe minority. So I still think that we should adhere to the general standard that if you are born male, you are male and if you’re born female, you’re a female.
Is gender a social construct or biological? Gender used to mean male and female. The lines are being blurred when referring to male, female, sex, and gender. Many people on the left tend to want to say that gender means how you identify. You could be a male, but you identify yourself as a female. I think we really should stick to the original standards. It doesn’t matter what you want to be. You are what you are.
We are what we are, even if we don’t like it. Now we’re free to try to change who we are and change our appearance and stuff. Nevertheless, that doesn’t mean that everyone else should be forced to comply, especially at the, at the risk of harming other people like in the sports events, for example.
According to the DSM‐5, gender dysphoria is a mental illness. Believing you are one thing when you’re not is a mental illness according to the DSM‐5 which is written by hardcore leftists. Let’s say I have a mental illness to the point that I really believe I’m Leprechaun, we shouldn’t expect other people to treat me as a Leprechaun, nor do I think the government should treat me as if I’m a Leprechaun.
In summary, we should all be free to do what we want, and I completely support and encourage individuals who want to change who they are. I support it, good for them, and no problem. Nevertheless, I don’t support mandating other people to change their own beliefs or point of view around that.
Should government determine biological standards for benefits of scholarships? if I were applying for something like a school scholarship, I would put on there that I was a black lesbian, female or something like that, because we’ve gotten to a place in the world where certain “victim” classes have privileges above all others. I think everyone should be treated equally regardless of your sex or race or your sexual orientation. All that stuff should be deleted from these government benefits. I think it is appalling that we give certain people treatment unfair.
Will California secede from the union. Would I leave if they did?
I think politicians say that for attention. There’s no chance in hell that the Democratic Party would allow California to separate because without California you’ve just killed the chances of a Democrat winning the national election. Without California there is almost no chance, I don’t think it’ll ever happen.
Would I leave the Communist Republic of California? Man, I like California, but it’s getting batshit crazy here to be honest. Right here on the central coast, it’s not completely crazy, San Luis has gotten pretty nuts. San Francisco, it’s completely mad. I don’t know if all I will the People’s Republic of California, but I think about it.
Why do some people lean left politically? Is that out of desire to protect the helpless or to protect their own circumstances?
First and foremost, it’s out of a place of complete ignorance. And when I say ignorance, I don’t mean it in a derogatory way. In order to believe a lot of the leftist positions, you have to be ignorant of reality, meaning you don’t know what’s happening in the real world and you have no idea of how the real world operates—you’re an idealist. Most of the views from the left are admirable, but unrealistic.
I think there are two categories of people, all of them being ignorant. Maybe because of their IQ or the environment they grew up where they were exposed to leftist propaganda, they develop the victim mindset. The victim mindset is incredibly detrimental to an individual’s success because they blame other people for all of their own hardships rather than taking responsibility for the things that they can control.
This group is raised to believe they’re helpless victims. When a Hillary Clinton comes out and says, we’re going to give you a free phone, free house, and free everything, it is too enticing for these people to ignore. I think there’s a group that just truly believes that out of ignorance because they don’t know any better.
The second group is comprised of educated and intelligent leftist people. They are college‐educated people, but very naïve and unaware of the real world. It is one thing to be ignorant because you haven’t been exposed to ideas, and another to be ignorant because you’re only exposed to leftist ideas and you haven’t really exposed yourself to the real world. If you go into the real world, especially if you go into ghettos and go around criminals and people like this, you will see that this whole victim narrative is just false.
These people are not victims of everything. They make bad choices and providing them with free things is only going to fuel their bad habits. Are there occasions where people are down and out, and they need help? Yes, of course there are. But what’s interesting is people left and right have the desire to help other people. It is a natural human instinct.
Therefore, if someone is truly down and out, the community will come to support. But what leftist want to do is to support criminals; people who don’t have the desire to help themselves. In summary, some people lean left politically because they’re uninformed and unaware of the real world, while, some of them are opportunists who are seeking power.
How do I deal with haters?
I encourage haters and here’s what I mean. I’ve realized that if you try to please everyone all the time, you please no one including yourself. I pick a stance but I’m open to changing that stance with new information. Most of what I put on Facebook and share publicly designed to intentionally to piss somebody off because I know it will push the wrong people away and attract the right people.
Here’s what I mean. If I’m against the minimum wage, I’m going to push away freeloaders who think that they should get $15 an hour when they’re only worth $10. I purposely want to piss them off and get them out of my life. But what it’s going to do is attract people who agree that you should only be rewarded by the things that you earn; and those are the kind of people that I like to be around.
The kinds of people that might buy one of my books are the realists. I repel those who think they should get $15 when they earn $10 because they think they should get a free book. And that’s just one example. The people I want to have over for a barbecue, hang out with, and have a good time with are hardworking, ambitious people who take responsibility for their own lot in life.
I deal with haters by being very clear on my positions in life. Moreover, my views and philosophies are very well thought out. I’m open to somebody showing me a point of view I haven’t seen or considered, and I will happily change my view. But if someone hates me because they disagree with me, then they need to go.
I have a few liberal friends and I just love when they politely and respectfully disagree. Sometimes they teach me something I didn’t know. Sometimes they help reinforce that I was right. They’re not haters. I welcome that.
The disrespectful people, I just delete them out of my life, and I keep doing things to offend them hoping they will go away forever.
I appreciate getting a chance once a month to share my thoughts with you guys and I’ll do this again next month. If you have more questions, put them in the comments or send them to me privately until then. I will talk to you guys later.