Tom DeBlass: Success Through Pain and Suffering

Tom DeBlass stood across the octagon from his opponent moments before his last mixed martial arts fight began. 

My mindset going into every fight was to destroy the object in front of me,” Tom said. “I didn’t really look at them as human beings. I looked at them as objects that were physically trying to impose their will on me, so I wanted to execute my will against them.”

The fighters had traded strikes for 93 seconds into the first round when Tom connected with a tight left hook. His opponent dropped to the ground but immediately popped back up, and the fight continued. Only 13 seconds later, Tom landed the same left hook, and the fight was over.

That is the moment when most fighters explode with excitement to celebrate their moment of glory, but Tom dropped to his knees to embrace the other fighter, who was unconscious on the mat.

The moment I knocked him out, I questioned what I was doing there,” Tom said. “It was hard to celebrate when I knew he also had a daughter and his whole world had just come crashing down.”

Hurting opponents was never Tom’s goal, but to win in MMA, you have to hurt the other person; otherwise, that person is going to hurt you.

It was just a weird feeling,” Tom said. “For sure, I want to be the one winning, but another person had to lose viciously. That’s when I knew my run was coming to an end with this MMA thing.” Continue reading “Tom DeBlass: Success Through Pain and Suffering”

Mahamed Aly: When Becoming a World Champion Is Your Only Option

When Mahamed Aly left Rio de Janeiro, he walked away from almost everything—his home, friends, family, and training partners—but he brought with him his determination to becoming a world champion.

It was rough, man,” Mahamed said. “I could not communicate because I didn’t speak English, and the people were cold. It was different in Brazil, because kids were running in the streets, and making friends comes naturally when you’re young.”

The weekends in the U.S. were especially rough for Mahamed when he looked at social media and saw his friends in Brazil having fun without him. 

I would be alone the whole weekend,” Mahamed said. “But I did not have a plan B. My two options were to win or win. There were times I would cry at home because I was so lonely, but I didn’t have an option to quit. There was no other way. I had to keep going.”

That was the beginning of a four‐year journey of intense training and competition that earned Mahamed world championship titles at purple and brown belt levels as he worked his way to the black belt division. When he finally reached the final seconds of the last black belt match of the world championships, Mahamed struggled to process what had just happened. Continue reading “Mahamed Aly: When Becoming a World Champion Is Your Only Option”

Chuck Rylant: How Jiu‐Jitsu Led to the Hero of His Story

— Written by By Cindy Cyr —

Growing up, Chuck Rylant was driven to become a real‐life hero.

Not having a healthy father figure in his life, Chuck sought out male role models, which ultimately came through the fictional characters he saw in movies. He was naturally drawn to action movie heroes of the eighties such as Sylvester Stallone in Rambo, Bruce Willis in Die Hard, and Mel Gibson in Lethal Weapon, and these heroes were his inspiration throughout a traumatic childhood that was filled with chaos.

In and out of foster homes when he was young, Chuck grew up on welfare and in government housing projects from the time he was born until he was 16, at which point he moved out to live on his own. Continue reading “Chuck Rylant: How Jiu‐Jitsu Led to the Hero of His Story”


I love Christmas.

I always have, but now that I have kids, I enjoy it even more.

As I get older, I’m beginning to realize just how important family traditions are.

Family traditions provided an event to look forward to that breaks up the monotony of our daily lives. They provide a reason to get loved ones together and a way to create valuable memories that you and your family will not appreciate until after they are gone.

I’m sending you this note this morning for two reasons.

First, to wish you and your family a merry Christmas.

Second, I want to hear about your family traditions, so I can get some new ideas to share with my family.

Here are some of the things my family looks forward to every year.

  • Halloween pumpkin carving, pumpkin pie, and haunted house tour
  • Thanksgiving is pretty traditional
  • Friday after thanksgiving, hot chocolate and cut a fresh Christmas tree
  • Saturday, we put up the outdoor Christmas lights and decorations
  • Mid December, gingerbread houses, hot chocolate, and food
  • Christmas eve dinner and stockings
  • Christmas morning gifts and brunch
  • First snow, we drag out the snowboards and head for the mountains
  • Spring the snowboards go in the attic and the camping gear comes down
  • May we take the boat out and get it ready for the summer
  • 4th of July BBQ and fireworks at home

As I write this seemingly benign list, each item triggers very fond memories for me.

So, if you’re relaxing on the couch in a food coma, please take a second to share your family traditions in the comment section.

I’d love to hear what your family does.

I hope you and your family are having a wonderful day celebrating in whatever way is special to you.


P.S. Are you on my schedule yet for the new year?

Steve Austin: What Does Not Kill You Just Puts You In The Hospital

Steve Austin started learning martial arts for the same reason a lot of young men do, but the pain that fueled him through overwhelming adversity was quite unique.

I was always bullied,” Steve said. “When I was a little kid, I did not realize how different I was from everyone else, but I had all these people ridiculing me. I felt like an outcast. By first or second grade, kids were already ruthless. It was not until I got a little older that I could see that something was different.”

Steve was born with a hip disease called Legg‐Perthes, but it was misdiagnosed when he was 3 years old. That mistake led to a rushed medical procedure, during which the surgeon passed out while abusing pharmaceutical narcotics. It was a botched surgery that Steve did not even need, and its by‐product was a series of medical and emotional hardships that still affected him decades later. Continue reading “Steve Austin: What Does Not Kill You Just Puts You In The Hospital”