The Three Pillars

Our community tends to be entrepreneurs, or self-driven, independent thinking employees who take responsibility for their own success.

They’re winners who refuse to conform to society’s depressing expectations because they demand more out of life.

In other words, they want to live extraordinary lives.

The people here desire a deeper understanding of themselves, appreciate self-improvement, and believe in life-long learning.

We do not try to convert “losers,” because it’s almost always a bad investment of time and energy.

The foundation of everything here originates from three unique processes, and when you immerse yourself, you’ll discover it’s the overlap of all three that will lead you to your own extraordinary life.


What you’ll get here (short version):

(1)Wealth Attraction,  (2) Wealth Preservation, and (3) Wealth Psychology

This overlap is unique and critical to your success.

Money and freedom come primarily through entrepreneurship, or an entrepreneurial approach to employment, but it’s not uncommon for high income earners to be broke.

That’s why the mix of business and personal finance is critical to your success.

You will also find elements of psychology here because all the best advice in the world is worthless without the right mindset driving your decisions.


What you’ll get here (long version):

The Problem

When you’re stuck in the rat race, it’s easy to lose sight of the possibility that life can be extraordinary.

For most people, happiness comes from being engrossed in meaningful experiences and while spending time with people they love.

People feel hopeless when trapped doing insignificant tasks that do not provide meaningful contribution or opportunity to grow.

In other words, happiness comes from love and contribution

The Solution

With that in mind, the solution seems simple, spend more time doing the things you love and less time doing the things you hate.

That’s easier said than done because things always get in the way—usually insufficient time and money.

That’s what this website is about—arranging your money and income in a way that makes it easy for you to do the things you love and stop doing the things you hate.

It’s about ignoring society norms so you can live life on your own terms.

It’s about clearing through the B.S. so you can focus on what’s important to you.

You will find three tools here that will enable you to live the extraordinary life you’ve always craved.

1) Wealth Attraction

Wealth attraction provides ways to create more income, often, but not always, through entrepreneurship.

Being self-employed is not easy, but it can provide greater income and freedom.

It’s usually easier to create more income through improved business marketing than it is to use financial planning to increase the wealth you already have.

Regardless of your profession, marketing is the most valuable skill you can ever develop, so you’ll receive a lot of unique customer attraction strategies. 

Click here to read the tale of two business owners—David and Sebastian. 

Click here to learn how to build a marketing system that works.

2) Wealth Preservation

Wealth preservation provides you with a unique system to convert your income into wealth so you can experience freedom.

Some people are great at making money, but they often struggle at converting that income into wealth, which is what you must have if you want to live life on your own terms.

The goal of wealth preservation should not be to get more money, but that is often a byproduct. Instead, we use wealth attraction to efficiently generate income, and use investments, tax planning, debt reduction, and other tools to convert income into wealth. 

Wealth preservation is a financial planning strategy that ignores the text book strategies that do not work in the real world with real people like you.

(Continue for more on wealth preservation)

3) Wealth Psychology

Regardless how much money you have, no one can live an extraordinary life without overcoming the unconscious limitations that cause unhappiness.

The mind is a powerful tool, but we all need the right mindset to channel that energy in the right direction, otherwise, we will limit ourselves without even knowing it. 

(Continue for more on wealth psychology

Thankfully I Screwed Up

I’m the worst guy to give relationship advice—or perhaps the best, it depends on your perspective.

I’ve been divorced twice.

On the one hand, I’ve screwed up a few relationships, but on the other hand, I’ve had lots of opportunities to learn.

In marketing, it’s often said there are no failed promotions, only tests. Thomas Edison famously said the same thing about his botched light bulb experiments.

I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”

My first marriage ended after my high school sweetheart cheated on me. I ended my second marriage after years of arguing.

You probably don’t care about my relationship gossip (or maybe you do), but the reason I’m sharing these embarrassing stories is because those failures were completely avoidable.

For a long time, I blamed my spouses. I played the victim and told the same old “poor me” tales to get significance. It was easy to validate my perspective by sharing the stories of first being cheated on and then marrying a woman with a temper.

Sure, my first wife was responsible for cheating, and my second wasn’t the best communicator, but those stories conveniently ignore my contribution to the problems. With the luxury of hindsight, it’s easy to say, had I known then what I know now, neither divorce (nor marriage) would have happened.

Wisdom often comes with age, but not always. Regardless, I could have figured things out a lot sooner, and with far less pain, if I had gotten help. Once I put aside my ego and stopped playing victim, I was empowered to improve the areas I had control over.

I have such deep appreciation for you and everyone who reads my work, because without you I could not do what I’m passionate about. I’m hoping that exposing my failures will inspire you to learn from my mistakes.

When I compare my pattern in business to my pattern in relationships, there is one distinct difference—and that is where there is a lesson to be learned.

I have been obsessed with achieving “success” since I was 15 years old. Back then, my naive definition of success meant earning money, accumulating possessions, and advancing in my career. I was obsessed so I devoured every book, class, or seminar on money, investing, marketing, and business. Then I hired coaches to fill in the gaps.

I’ve been studying business and investing most of my life, but I did not do that in my marriages. It wasn’t until after my second divorce that I consciously focused on learning how to succeed in relationships through books, seminars, and therapists.

On a side note, I’ve pretty much figured out women. Everything you need to know can be summed up in a two-minute video: www.ChuckRylant.com/women (enjoy) 😊

Rates of divorce are similar to rates of failure in business and investing, so it’s crazy that I did not study relationships with the same vigor I did the other areas. But it’s equally nuts to ignore focused study of wealth attraction and preservation—yet most people do that their entire lives.

Nothing can replace the lessons I have learned from making expensive mistakes, but it was investing in my personal development that dramatically shortened my learning curve and continues to be the single greatest investment of my life.

We are not born with the skills needed to thrive in life. High school and college offer virtually nothing to help, which leaves it up to you to master the Three Pillars of an Extraordinary Life.

Do not wait for years of mistakes before you make those pillars a priority by hiring a coach and devouring books.

We cannot see our unconscious limitations that are the obstacles between where we are now and where we want to be. If we could see the roadblock, we would have already overcome it.

They say the definition of insanity is repeating the same pattern and expecting a different outcome. The good news is that you get to decide if this year will be different from the rest.

If you’d like help reaching that next level, let me know and I will try to fit you into my coaching schedule. Regardless, I will be rooting for your success.

By the way, I appreciate the many kind notes I’ve gotten about these articles. I love hearing from you, so please keep them coming.

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The Three Pillars of an Extraordinary Life

If you’re like the rest of us, you have your fair share of fears, self-doubt, and anxiety, and occasionally make some irrational decisions.

We’re not born with these traits—they’re how our minds have adapted to our experiences.

Maybe you’ve learned to hide your real emotions behind a well-constructed facade, but you and I both know they are there.

However, what you may not realize is just how much these subconscious emotions limit your business, career, and wealth potential.

Since every one of us lives with some dysfunctional emotions, it’s easy to wonder what allows some people to thrive while others fail. Continue reading “The Three Pillars of an Extraordinary Life”

Chuck Rylant: How Jiu-Jitsu Led to the Hero of His Story

 
— Written by By Cindy Cyr —

Growing up, Chuck Rylant was driven to become a real-life hero.

Not having a healthy father figure in his life, Chuck sought out male role models, which ultimately came through the fictional characters he saw in movies. He was naturally drawn to action movie heroes of the eighties such as Sylvester Stallone in Rambo, Bruce Willis in Die Hard, and Mel Gibson in Lethal Weapon, and these heroes were his inspiration throughout a traumatic childhood that was filled with chaos.

In and out of foster homes when he was young, Chuck grew up on welfare and in government housing projects from the time he was born until he was 16, at which point he moved out to live on his own. Continue reading “Chuck Rylant: How Jiu-Jitsu Led to the Hero of His Story”

You Can Stop Apologizing

The luxury of wealth has unleashed a plague of political correctness in the United States.

While children in Zimbabwe are starving, people in the U.S. are arguing over which bathroom to use.

When the stakes are low, people will predictably invent a crisis to keep the drama high.

No matter what the bleeding hearts preach, everyone is not equal, nor should we pretend that everyone is the same. Continue reading “You Can Stop Apologizing”